Support one another

One of the hardest things in the world is go it alone. It seems to me that it's even a bit harder for single moms. You get used to going it alone. Then there comes that 1 thing that you just really want to share or need some help getting done. There's a catch. Most of us don't ask for help. Some of us can't. We're so used to being the doers and they helpers that asking for help ourselves, not an option.

Women are the worst too. Don't get mad, you know I'm right. We claim to be supportive of other women, and sometimes we are, but not always. There's a tinge of competition there. There's a bit of the she can't do better than me, or she isn't going to be better mom than me. We forget that what we see at the football practice, on Facebook or Instagram isn't necessarily how their lives are. People are fantastic at hiding things and social media is supposed to be 'feel good' right, not real, no one wants to see real.

So, my suggestion. Let's support one another. This blog isn't just for 'single' moms, it isn't even just for 'moms' it's for whoever, wherever, whenever, that might actually get something out of it. it's just called Country Mom Single Life because that's what I am and how I'm living.

Support one another. We all want to succeed in life. We all want to show our kids that we can live a good life. We want to teach them to respect one another, to be kind, to work hard, to appreciate what they have and count their blessings, but not to compare their blessings to the person across the street. Who cares that their house is bigger? I'm not paying that mortgage, it's not my problem or my bragging right and I'm so ok with that.... Who cares if they have a million-dollar barn with 10 heated and cooled stalls? My barn works and I don't need 10 stalls, (that would just make me want to buy more horses) it doesn't bother me that my horses are wooly boogers from the cold. They're warm. They live outside in a natural environment, they're horses remember.

If I spend time worrying about what of car Susie down the road has in her garage that's time, I've wasted out of the short 18 years I have to enjoy my children. They grow up and they grow up fast. Blink and you'll miss it.

To all the moms out there trying to pull in some extra cash with Social Media, I see you. I am right there with you. To all the single moms blogging, giving 'life hacks', posting daily, I see you. You go girl! For all the single dads out there that are raising their kids on their own, doing right, paying their child support on time and current, I see you. Keep on keeping on. You're doing great!

My prayer for all my followers is simple. I pray you keep on keeping on, that you recognize others, support them, and lead by example, and sometimes, that means stepping back and asking for help.

Too many moms/parents with covid and all the stuff going on in the world are carrying the weight of the world on their shoulders. We don't always realize the burden other people carry so make a point to get out of your comfort zone and ask someone how their day was. Check in on a friend you haven't heard from in a while. Offer help. If you're the one that needs help, ask for it.

Be kind.